Miss Haldane

Our 11th dominatrix interview isn’t actually with a dominatrix at all. We’ll let Miss Haldane of Worcestershire explain…

How did you become a Dominatrix?

I don’t describe myself as a Dominatrix – I am a disciplinarian first and foremost, and to some of my subs, a Dominant. I don’t think there was ever a ‘becoming’. It is a part of me; a natural extension and an expression of who I am. While I have been involved in D/s in my personal life for a number of years, it was last year that an opportunity presented itself for me to become self-employed and to manage my own work schedule. I realised I could take that opportunity to offer my services as a disciplinarian and Dominant professionally, which was something I’d been interested in doing for some time. It provides some really juicy variety to my working week – I love it.

Where in the UK are you based?

I offer sessions on Mondays predominantly, from a domestic venue in Worcestershire, and a commercial venue in the West Midlands.

How would you describe your domination style?

Hm. Good question! I should probably let my subs and spankees answer this one, but in their absence I’d describe my style as fairly intense generally – the specifics of that vary between sessions though. I can be quite serious and stern and I enjoy reaching some real emotional depth with those I see. I adore the psychological aspects of play and I never simply dispense a beating – there is always a deeper, more intense element to it. Having said that there is often some levity in my sessions and I enjoy laughing either at or with my bottoms, depending on the circumstances!

What are your personal favourite activities?

Corporal punishment is my absolute favourite (as a disciplinarian it would be somewhat odd if that wasn’t top of the list…), but depending on the dynamic I can and do enjoy a range of other activities too, within very well-defined limits.

What kind of outfits do you like to wear during a session?

I dress professionally predominantly – a shirt, skirt and heels are my usual attire. For those wanting something less formal, and on days that I fancy it, I will dress down into jeans and a top.

Do you offer online or phone domination? Do you offer financial domination?

Not immediately, no. I have made bespoke arrangements with a few of my regular bottoms who seek remote contact outside of in-person sessions. This can vary from phone calls, to emails, to setting of tasks or punishments. It’s something I’m happy to provide once I’ve got to know someone in person; this kind of discipline is in my opinion only effective once a dynamic has been established in person. Knowing how someone ticks is key to providing effective domination from afar.

What qualities do you look for in a submissive?

I expect those pursuing real life goals to demonstrate real application, and I expect to see them making progress. Their life is not a game, as much as we ‘play’; I invest my effort and time into providing discipline and motivation, and I expect that to be re-paid via evidence of dedication to working towards our agreed goals, and progress against the targets we set.

As a general rule I don’t take kindly to laziness or disrespect. Those I agree to see on an ongoing basis tend to be thoughtful, proactive, independent and open-minded. I can’t deny it – I like a little spirit too!

Do you have any particularly memorable or unusual session experiences you would like to share?

My sessions are each special in their own way; I wouldn’t like to choose between any as a favourite. I think there is always a moment in the development of a dynamic where a connection is made – be that a shared understanding in a look, a sense of connectedness in silence, or the breaking down of walls during a beating. These moments are special and memorable in each relationship.

Are there any websites you would like to tell us about?

I could tell you about my own…? It’s www.misshaldane.com.

What’s the best way for potential clients to get in touch with you?

Via my website, where potential clients can find out how I expect to be approached – my website includes details of my contact email address.

Finally, if you had a motto to live by, what would it be?

Live fully, love completely, and be always a person of your word.